Break Free From Shame: The Verywell Mind Podcast

Tune in to hear NFL player turned actor and TV host, Terry Crews, share how he struggled with shame and then broke free.

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Healthy Mind Break Free From Shame With Actor/TV Host Terry Crews Amy Morin, LCSW Verywell Mind Editor-in-Chief On today's episode I talk with Terry Crews, an NFL player-turned-actor and TV host. He has appeared on shows like "Everybody Hates Chris" and "Brooklyn Nine-Nine," and hosted shows like "Who Wants to Be a Millionaire" and "America's Got Talent." He's the author of a new book called "Tough." In it, he shares stories from his childhood, his experiences in the NFL, and how his idea of real toughness has evolved over the years.   Anytime I hear the word 'should,' I know shame is involved." — Terry Crews   Why Terry Is Mentally Strong Terry had a rough childhood. He grew up witnessing domestic violence. He learned that being tough meant acting like he didn't have feelings and showing that he was strong enough to beat people up. Being in the NFL reinforced some of these ideas. Over time, however, he recognized that it takes a lot more strength to talk about feelings than it does to hide them. And he became aware of how much shame he carried around due to his addiction to pornography. Terry created positive changes in his life when he sought treatment, began talking about his feelings, and worked on healing himself and his marriage. Now, he's sharing his journey toward developing real mental strength. What You'll Hear on the Show Why Terry relied on extrinsic rewards in the past and how he developed intrinsic motivation The event that made him decide to get help for himself How Terry developed an addiction to pornography and how he kept it hidden from most people What Terry has learned about shame and the antidote to shame Why he's sharing his story with other people Why he came forward about being sexually assaulted The best piece of advice he ever received How Terry stopped being a people-pleaser What he learned about himself in therapy What You'll Learn About Mental Health and Mental Strength When people experience shame, they often view their behavior as a moral weakness. Consequently, they treat themselves harshly and struggle to create positive change. Shame and addiction often go hand-in-hand. Fortunately, there are things you can do to break free from shame and improve your mental health.   This is the thing about being self-righteous–anyone can be self-righteous, which blew my mind. You could be Black and self-righteous. You can be gay and self-righteous. You could be poor, you could be rich. You could be any ethnicity, any place. You could be male or female. But that self-righteousness, it allows you to do the most heinous, evil things to other people because you feel correct." — Terry Crews   LISTEN NOW Follow: Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts / RSS EDITOR'S PICK OF THE WEEK Best Online Therapy Services of 2022 READ NOW  › READ THESE NEXT Are You Experiencing Shame? READ NOW  › The Difference Between Shame and Guilt READ NOW  › How to Overcome an Addiction READ NOW  › You are receiving this newsletter because you subscribed to the Healthy Mind newsletter. If you wish to unsubscribe, please click here. A DOTDASH MEREDITH BRAND 28 Liberty Street, 7th Floor, New York, NY 10005 © 2022 Verywellmind.com - All rights reserved. Privacy Policy